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BLOG PostI read a while back about Black Women's 'love' for the DOEK. Lets go down memory lane a little, shall we? I am sure this rings a bell.
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Ever since I was a little girl, wearing a doek when going to bed was
the order of the night. My mom would tuck me into bed by strategically
placing the doek over my braided or relaxed hair so that it wouldn’t
fall off during the night and cause much unwanted
Dark ’N Lovely oil spills on her precious pillow cases.
I grew up to understand that this was a part of the all-important
care and maintenance of my hair, mainly because my mother didn’t want to
spend a further couple of 100’s of Rands on repairing my damaged crown.
It wasn’t until my varsity days, where I stayed at res and would have
my guy friends knock on my door early in the morning asking for milk and
other breakfast supplies and seeing the shock on their faces when their
eyes caught sight of my doek, and the
boyfriend
insisting that I keep ‘that thing’ as far from my head and from his
sight as possible, that I realized that the doek is one hair item that
heavily disgruntles the male species.
While chatting to the men in my life and inquiring why they consider
the doek a weapon of mass cosmetic destruction, I realized that they
struggle to understand why black
females need
their hair covered when going to bed, probably because they want to run
their fingers through our hair (only the Lord knows why). Black
hair
is a mystery to most men; it’s a hidden territory that can only be
looked at and marveled but never touched. And I guess that looking at
the mysterious and untouchable long, flowing locks of our
hair adds to the seduction element.